Are you digging a hole or building a cathedral?

I received this e-mail the other day...

Are you digging a hole or building a cathedral?
Last month I attended a professional development and networking luncheon. It was more interesting than it sounds.
Something from that lunch has stuck with me – and I don't mean the dozens of announcements or painfully basic tips on getting involved in social media.

During a conversation about the characteristics that make up a leader, the woman facilitating our discussion told a story.

A woman was walking down the street and saw three men, each one digging a hole in the ground. The woman stopped and asked the first man, "What are you doing?"

That man didn't hesitate at all. He answered, "I'm digging a hole."

The woman moved on to the next man and asked him, "What are you doing?"

This man looked at his toolbox, then back at the woman. Then he said, "I'm building something."

The woman walked a bit further and reached the third man. She asked, "What are you doing?"

That man leaned back on his shovel and stared into space for just a moment before replying, "I'm creating a cathedral."

Each of those men performed the same task, but they had different perspectives on why they were doing it. The point of that story, as I'm sure you can figure out, is that a leader is someone who not only completes the task at hand, but also understands how it fits into the larger goal and shares the vision of that bigger picture.

I left that luncheon a little disappointed, as I'd hoped to take away some more tangible tips for positioning myself as a leader. But later, as I sifted through the stack of business cards I'd collected that day, I kept coming back to that phrase: creating a cathedral.

I thought about creating a cathedral and what that means to me. I thought about it as I listened to Matchbox 20 sing about being the head honcho. I thought about it as I read blog posts by stay-at-home moms who consider themselves family managers. I thought about it as I looked at my to-do list and wished I could delegate the less fun tasks to someone else.

And I realized I'd learned more than I realized about leadership.
Leadership is more than being in charge, being the boss of somebody. It's more than a fancy office or an impressive title. It's more than having underlings follow your directions; it's more than having underlings.

Leadership is about stewardship. It's about understanding that each item on our to-do list is part of a goal, a vision. Even when it's not fun. Or seemingly important. Or glamorous, rewarding, gratifying. And it's about doing those things well, because the bigger picture is more important than the tedium, the boredom, the sweat, the tears.

It's remembering that writing 300 press releases in one month, while repetitive, is my contribution to the success of 650 small businesses across this country. It's remembering that balancing my checkbook, though boring and full of math, is the accountability that keeps my family within the budget that will free us from debt. It's remembering that changing diapers, while at times disgusting, is a gesture of love to my daughter.

I become a leader – even when I'm just leading myself – when I treat my tasks as part of the bigger picture that I believe in. And – no big surprise here – it's what God tells us to do anyway.

While the image of a cathedral is new to me, the idea of working with honor no matter how large or small the task, is one the Lord has taught me over and over. After yet another reminder a few months ago, I finally wrote it out on a giant post-it and stuck it above my computer at work:

"Whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus."
(Colossians 3:17)
"Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men."
(Ephesians 6:7)
Your to-do list may look different than mine, but we can all create a cathedral with even our most mundane tasks. What is your cathedral today?

After reading this and mulling it over for a while I was inspired to think about perspective and what it really means to me.

I came up with the following statements:

It is something I have control over.

It is something I can change.

It is something that I can use to produce results with those around me. Positive or negatively.

I was challenged to write down 20 things that I am grateful for to help spur my perspective positively.

This is what I came up with, and although most are very surface level things, I know they are things that I take for granted and don't always appreciate.

1. my freedom

2. my husband

3. my children

4. being healthy

5. eating food I choose

6. eyes to see

7. clean water

8. warm/ dry house

9. mysic

10. cali

11. my mom

12. good schools

13. vitamins

14. friends

15. my church

16. tv

17. books

18. laughter

19. prayer

20. washing machine/ dryer